Iron Sharpens Iron

In biblical times, one iron blade sharpened another blade until both became more useful tools. This visual aid of a metal commonly used as an instrument of work or war helps us see a practical model for many human relationships. Can you make that connection (Proverbs 27:17)?

A Principle of "Iron" Relationships

"Iron sharpening iron" implies that at least two pieces of iron are present. One-piece would not become sharper without the presence of the other. When left alone, both iron blades would be dull and less effective with use. This illustrates an important biblical principle of relationship. In His infinite wisdom, God knew how important it would be for us to live and serve in a community and develop strong relationships with others (1 Thess. 2:8). This process shows a willingness to help another improve their effectiveness. It requires a generosity of spirit, a positive attitude and honesty. Proverbs 6:4 says it says, "Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but deceitful are the kisses of an enemy." 

I count myself blessed to have a circle of friends that I can call "IRON." We freely help each other and become better ourselves for it. One friend, in particular, will often pause before sharing her truth. She smiles, then says, "Now, guard your heart." I love it, don't you want people around you who speak the truth in love. It is from this truth that we can see another's perspective and grow. The fact is that these conversations are sometimes uncomfortable, but they bring greater awareness, leading to positive change. Are you investing time nurturing and growing your relationships? Are you speaking the truth in love or simply agreeing with your friends? Does it appear that they have a sincere interest in your growth? Is the "Iron" sharpening reciprocal? What does it mean if only one person is being sharpened? Are you a receiver and never add value, or are you always giving? Or, is the exchange constant and powerful, and both of you are lifted?

Motivation to build relationships

Working together becomes mutually beneficial. This process of sharpening comes with a desire to help the other person, and in the process, you receive. Are you open to receiving and giving constructive criticism? Or, are you easily offended and become wounded easily, so much so, that friends avoid telling you the hard truth? Do you have friends that you tiptoe around and say only as much as you think they can tolerate? Humm? Take a little time to look at those relationships? There is work to be done.  Good relationships require an investment of your time but there are well-worth it to all parties.