You're Speaking Loudly but Haven't Said a WORD

We have aleady established that words are powerful. They are containers that can carry creative or destructive power. But, have you ever thought about the power of silent non-verbal signals? These non-audible signals though unheard, speak volumes. For years, many have studied nonverbal signals. Do you believe that how we communicate is almost as important as what we communicate? Have you ever witnessed someone say something which did not go over well? Then, another person comes along saying virtually the same thing, and all is right with the world. How does that happen? I can't say but it does. Which reminds me of an incident that happened a few years ago. One of the counselors said to me privately, “I just told her the same thing you just said?” Wondering why the parent was leaving quietly and seemed pleased with the outcome of the meeting. What non-verbal messages are you sending? What shows up on your face when confronted with unpleasant situations? Are you reflecting an inner calmness? Do you appear to be a person focused on solving the problem? Or, is it the face of one who mirrors the external influences around them. What nonverbal signals can you think of that would help de-escalate an emotionally charged persons? Use this time as a time of reflection. This week, consider becoming more aware of your nonverbal signals. What messages are you sending out? Are they in agreement with what you are saying?